Being successful can be overwhelming at times. It is very necessary to work at loving yourself through the mistakes. Even the one’s you knew you should’ve known better. Its life… It’s okay to be inexperienced and make mistakes, they help us to grow too ya know. One thing I can’t stand is somebody who came from a little now they have a lot but all they can do is brag on themselves. People have created this image of being successful as always being in the limelight. Without showing the well rounded example of life and what it really means to live it. Real success is being constantly inspired to grow and learn because you know someone is paying more attention to the things you do vs. the things you choose to flaunt and worship other then the most high. I knew exactly what J.Cole meant when he said “Think Being Broke Was Better”. There’s so much beauty in the struggle, you know darkness, you know pain, you know rejection, you know hunger, and most importantly you know God. But soon as you’ve gotten up you quick to put the next down because they not where you at.
We all have a perspective right?? And before you scream “she hating” I am far from a hater. But I’ve seen this top photo over 100 times already all over social media networks and quite frankly I am a little disgusted, offended, and embarrassed. Reason being because in a world that seems to be moving backwards is this what it has come to? With how much our culture goes through is this the only way we feel strong? The only way we feel we have a voice? The only way we feel validated like we matter? Are we really only defined by likes, shares, and publicizing our temple for the world to see? No really? Some will say it’s just work or it’s just a picture, but I mourn equally if not more the amount for our AA females who believe that this is what we “HAVE TO” do. We already have it hard enough! We are so much more than our hips, and our thighs, and our cosmetics that cost $200+ to make us feel accepted. The way we view and value ourselves has yet to improve in essence of respect for ourselves because this top photo is what gets worshipped over the bottom. Do we really hate ourselves this much? And as you start to really know who you are – (who we are) because we are in this together you mourn for our sisters. We are so much more than our sexuality and our servitude! The bottom photo is a picture that never went viral! And there is still something equally important and powerful about it. But it’s something quietly powerful. It’s liberating to see us all fully clothed and still successful but just for our intellect and how we carry ourselves. We are not played out we just have to change the way we view ourselves all together first before anyone else can. There’s nothing wrong with being sexy but do it in a form of class and in a way that makes you feel whole inside. Not the way that makes you feel holes inside. We want our young girls to grow up and be powerful leaders but how? When this is all we glorify, men included! I refuse for my child to see the top photo as leading the way! The ladies on this other photo have started their own organization for (us) AAs called The Black Ivy Pre-Law Society. Which seeks to provide it’s members with resources for academic, professional and mentorship development. All young Lawyers. What has this top photo done for you other than make you lust after one, see yourself different like you have to measure up, or just proud because you are defined the same way with media attention? Ladies we gotta get to the point where we want to be more than just accepted. 😔 I say this all with love but I am so tired of us doing this to ourselves. So tired. I don’t want my nieces or daughters to grow up and be this way. I feel fully unclothed and scarred just from looking at this picture and being a AA woman in the world. We must be the help that we all need!